Re: loosing freinds [ot, nvt, nvfrc]

From: Peter Grace (pgrace@fierymoon.com)
Date: Wed Jun 02 2004 - 16:39:34 EDT


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Barry,

Any "friend" who will pull this kind of shit is not a friend. They're a
mooch. There's a difference. A friend would understand if you said
"Hey, I'm trying to save my dough here, wtf are you doing?!?!" and
there'd be normal conversation and discourse. A Mooch pulls the "Oh,
I'm not going to help with the room because it was free anyway" type of
shit and will act like he's going to resign the friendship. Any friend
who's not willing to do the business end of things is obviously afraid
to fess up to the responsibility.

Hint. He's not going to stop being your friend. He's just trying to
guilt you into staying his friend to keep the sugar-daddyism coming!

If I were you (and I know I'm not) I'd say ditch the bastard. If you
can't trust your friends to understand a tight wallet, how can you trust
them with anything else? Reliability goes down the toilet.

Now, if he does apologize when (and if) you apologize, then there's some
hope of recouperation. If it's a "YOU BETTER BE SORRY" then I'd hang up
again and run away screaming! :)

Just my two cents -- I used to have friends like that for a long time
until I met who my real friends were. It was good to get off the
"carrying people along" bandwagon.

Pete

Barry wrote:
| The aftermath:
| He called back and left me a voicemail slamming me for hanging up and
| that he didn't want to put up with such childish behavior, and that he
| was considering just ending our friendship. Even though he can be a
| royal PITA, I hate to loose a friend and riding buddy. I have no plans
| to call him back. This morning I called and cancelled my reservations
| and my tickets. I hate to miss the race and everything, but the whole
| experience is rather tainted, now.
|
| Well, I await comments.

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